Today while I was working there was a family near my till. One of the little girls asked something about me being a girl or boy to her parents- or this is what I am guessing. Immediately the parent says SHHH! keep quiet. I found this happens often, children are often curious about me because I have no hair, or they are not sure what sex I am. What I find interesting though is the reaction of the parent, where the parent wants to hush the child. I have a memory of myself as a kid looking up at a woman while I was in the convenient store with my mom. She was very tall, and I said, ‘ you are big’. My mom reacted to this and explained to the woman that I meant she was tall. And afterwards I felt guilty and bad for saying this. But what I see about this situation is that I was innocent in making an observation, and so are other children. Yet, I see the reaction of the parents as being a judgmental one, where they in themselves have made a judgment or are in fear of what the person present and project that onto the child. In turn it creates a suppression within the child, and I could see that developing into a judgment. But in reflecting this whole scenario back to myself, I see that I fear children because they are so brutally honest, and they reflect to me my own judgments.
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